In this episode of the Divorce Recovery Show with Diane Valiquette, we learn about our emotional wounds and how to identify them. When you start noticing a repetitive behaviour that triggers an emotional response to it, then you can start to understand where it came from. It is not really that other people that are doing it to you but your perception or you allowing it to trigger an adapted behvioural response to them. You will continuously feel this until you become aware of it an start healing this wound.
Diane says that you first start noticing how often this happens “to” you first and then identify what it is that you are feeling. Then look backwards to see where this first occurred in your life which is usually from 0-8 yrs of age. Look at this recycled belief and try to understand what you are saying most of the time. Journal this story all the way back until you identify which parent you learned it from. When you identify it you will know who’s blueprint you are running and have been running it since then as you go out into the world.
When you can identify it, you will be able to start standing up for yourself and taking command of yourself. Taking responsibility for your wounds is to get into the questioning… getting curious and identifying what those triggers do in your body and then identify what the emotion is. Different emotions are felt in different parts of the body. Once you figure that out, you can express that clearly and state your needs and boundaries. That is you taking responsibility for them.
Start today and little by little you will get better. Diane Valiquette broadcasts The Divorce Recovery Show Live on Ottawa Buzz TV Ottawa’s WEB TV.