Divorce Recovery: 5 Tips To Thrive After Divorce

Catherine Corey On The Divorce Recovery Show

In today’s episode on the Divorce Recovery Show, Catherine Corey a relationship specialist teaches us 5 life hacks or tips to thriving along the recovery process after divorce.  Now that things have changed it is time to reclaim and transform your life.

Tip 1: Creating A New Story

Rediscover an element of happiness by creating a life script for a future that you would really like to have. This was a trick that Catherine learned from Peggy McColl.  If you have done your core values personal mission statement, you can start with that… I am + core values + mission statement for example.  Create the script and speak it to yourself with the positive emotions that the story evokes. When you do this it makes it easier for the mind to actually believe it to be true.  There is some similarity to doing affirmations.

Once it is done, you can make it into an audio recording as if it was true. Catherine also got someone to record some supportive and encouraging words for support. Listen to these recordings 5-10 times a day.

If you want some help with this you can email Catherine for some samples and a template. catherine@recoveryacademy.ca

Tip 2: Do Something Nice For Yourself Every Single Day (a gift of love)

Gary Chapman wrote a book about the 5 Languages of Love . Once you know what your love language is you can do something for yourself using that language every day.

If you want a free assessment to find yours you can email Catherine for that. catherine@recoveryacademy.ca

Tip 3: Releasing Trapped Emotions

Anger, anxiety and sadness are part of our first language that helps us figure out what our body and we need. Anger can be an indication about  limits and boundaries. We need to be able to express it to free it from our bodies. Anxiety is our perception of danger and perceived danger and our ability to manage it. Doing your life script can help you lower this anxiety, or EFT, and mindfulness. Sadness helps draw our attention inside. Learning about our core values, our dreams and ourselves helps us manage and separate these emotions. It is important to create a space for it to be expressed. Let go as much as you can to forgive and accept an apology that you may not ever receive. Letting go of these emotions frees us up.

Tip 4: Mindfulness

The practice of being intentionally aware in the present moment. It helps let go of the emotional turmoil. Observing, then describing and then participating.

Tip 5: Rediscovering Your Interests

Things that give you really really positive feelings. This allows you to create positive memories from exploring these things.

Catherine Corey is a trailblazer, leadership and life strategist, educator, family mental wellness advocate, speaker and relationship coach. She is a mother, step-mother, and grandmother.

Catherine’s niche has changed over the years, her principles have not.  She started with sexual assault/abuse survivors as she inspired hope with her own recovery.  Her understanding of human emotions provides the knowledge and skill set to assist adults and children learn methods to regulate their emotions. Her experience of her own personal divorces led to her early collaboration with the Separation and Divorce Resource Centre. Each of these niches has provided learning and insight into the many stressors that can contribute to the development of mental illness and addiction issues.  Catherine is now in a unique position to offer assistance to men, women and youth who are seeking to change their lives.  She listens without judgment and responds to the needs of her clients, where they are, supporting, coaching, educating and guiding as needed.

The Divorce Recovery Show is part of the Ottawa Buzz TV web TV network, hosted weekly by Diane Valiquette , Divorce Recovery Coach.